In life there are many times when we are faced with a brick wall. We’ve hit a brick wall in our jobs, we’ve hit a brick wall in our relationships, we’ve hit a brick wall in our faith, we’ve hit a brick wall in life in general, we aren’t sure what to do next, or if we are we don’t quite know how to get there.
The late Randy Pausch wrote a book titled “The Last Lecture” about his experiences in life and although his intention for writing the book and giving his lecture was to help others achieve their childhood dreams, I took something much different away from it. Many times in the book and the lecture he touched on “hitting brick walls in your life.” He noted on several occasions that the brick walls are not there to keep us out but rather to overcome them, to make us better, to push us, work hard and persevere, to keep the other people out who aren’t willing to put in the effort. In other words the brick walls are there to “separate the boys from the men.” However the quote about the brick walls I found most impressional was this…
“Brick walls are there for a reason. They give us a chance to show how badly we want something.”
So much truth in that one sentence “They give us a chance to show how badly we want something.”
How badly do we want to achieve our goals?
How badly do we want that job? Bad enough to work harder than everyone else to get it? Bad enough to go above and beyond what is required and expected? Bad enough to wear ourselves thin almost to the point of giving up? (but note no job is worth losing your sanity over)
How badly do we want to redeem a relationship with someone? Bad enough to only be honest with them no matter how much it may hurt them or hurt you? Bad enough to not get caught up in situations that will only cause even more brokenness and resentment?
How badly do we want to better ourselves? Bad enough to leave the past behind? Bad enough to separate ourselves from any childish ways of thinking? Bad enough to stand on our own feet without relying on anyone else? Bad enough to say “okay, it’s time for me to focus on me. It’s time to leave the worries of future failures and worries of disappointment behind, take it one day at a time” and actually do it, not just say it?
How badly do we want that person? Bad enough to not be afraid to go to whatever lengths to express to them how we feel? Bad enough to go to the ends of the Earth for them? Bad enough to walk 1000 miles to fall down at their door? (if you didn’t get that Proclaimer’s reference, we can’t be friends) Bad enough to continue to love them despite their imperfections? Bad enough to actually EMBRACE their imperfections? Or maybe even bad enough to be completely selfless, bad enough to let them go?
Pausch touched base on these brick walls from a non-spiritual standpoint, so if you’re looking for a worldly/reality source of inspiration and motivation I definitely recommend reading his book. If you’re not looking for a religious,”come to God” standpoint, then stop reading here… I’ll link the video of the actual lecture Pausch’s book was based off of just in case anyone would like to watch and also as a good breaking point for those who don’t care to read anymore.
…But if you’re looking for the spiritual standpoint, I’m going to give you one. As always this is all my personal opinion and based on personal experience so not everyone may agree with it, in reality, no one may agree with me.
The most important and colossal brick wall of them all…
How badly do we want God?
How badly do we need God?
Without God, without our faith, every brick wall in our life is going to destroy us, going to hold us back and keep us out for good.
I’ve recently been dealing with a few brick walls of my own and at the end of the day it all comes back to that one question, “how badly do I need God.” I need Him badly to give me the strength and persistence to overcome my brick walls. To guide me, to map out His plan for me and show me the way. “Spirit, lead me.”
I’ve realized that none of my brick walls are actually that big. When I put it into the perspective of how I can break down these walls with the help from God (because that’s what he wants us to do, he wants us to ask him for help, to go to him for help, to tell him “hey God, I need you, I really need you and I can’t do this without you”) it all becomes so simple. For with God nothing is impossible. No brick wall is impossible.
It’s hard, and it’s tough, He never promised us an easy life, an easy way out, an easy decision, but He promised to help us. All we have to do is ask.
Lately I’ve had to refocus on that. I’ve been in my head way too much, worrying way too much, doubting myself, figuring my life out, finding my calling in life, fighting between who I want to be and who God needs me to be. One of the hardest brick walls I’ve run into thus far has been am I ready to take on the life that God has intended for me? “How badly do I want it? Am I willing to relinquish all control? Am I willing to leave behind all of it and truly give it all to Him like I said I have?”
How badly do I want to overcome this brick wall in front of me?
And I’ll stop at nothing until I do.