As you all have probably figured out by now all of my posts have been song titles that I’ve put a twist on…. well, this song has absolutely nothing to do with this post but it’s one of my all time faves plus it’s MY birthday week and I’m gonna post what I wanna…
“You make the rockin’ world go round…”
This week is my 24th birthday. My “golden year” some might say (because I’ll be 24 on the 24th of November)
Twenty four trips around the sun. Eight thousand seven hundred and sixty-six sunrises. (yes this is including the six February 29ths I’ve been present for since 1994) Hundreds of mistakes. Thousands of lessons. Millions of memories. Countless experiences. I’ve decided to do a mini-series of 24…
24 little whatever’s… 24 important things to me that I think can benefit everyone.
Instead of making my first one on 24 mistakes, I’ve decided to do it on lessons… because if you think about it, that’s all a “mistake” really is… it’s a building block. A learning tool. You never really make mistakes, you learn lessons…
24 lessons I’ve learned in 24 years…
- Be exactly who you are. Unapologetically you. Those little quirks about yourself that you wish you could change? That’s what makes you, YOU. There’s only one of you that will ever exist in this world, and personally I think that’s a beautiful thing to think about.
- Be Bold. Walk with confidence and a purpose.
- Your dreams are going to require sacrifice.
- Go with your gut, always.
- Be a 6 year old. Be a kid as long as you can, even at 24, even at 53, even at 87… Everyone should view the world through the eyes of a child. Remember that? When even the smallest of things was the most fascinating thing you’ve ever seen and this world felt so magical, when everything was new to you… This world hasn’t changed, only our perspective. The trees are still just as cool as they were when we were six.
- Speak your mind. It’s better to go ahead and say what you are feeling, even if it is risky… at the end of the day I’d rather have a “I wish I hadn’t…” than a “what if I had…” moment.
- Talk to strangers. You never know the potential someone could have. Every single person in your life right now was once a stranger to you, and look how beautiful that turned out?
- Smile. Always. You’ll feel better, and maybe someone else will feel better too.
- If you have a passion, pursue it. Anything you are passionate about, go for it, keep that drive and determination you have and pursue it with your entire being… I wish I would have kept this same spirit with dance, I did it for 13 years and got really good, to this day I still find myself dancing whenever I’m alone.
- It’s better to have a few solid friends than several acquaintances.
- People are going to come and go in life, don’t fight it, it is supposed to be this way. Everything happens for a reason, I firmly believe that.
- It’s okay to give someone a second chance, but remember that people will only treat you how you ALLOW them to treat you. “Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice… still shame on you for taking advantage of my kind and forgiving nature” (lol just kidding!) But seriously, it’s okay to be “too forgiving” that’s never a bad thing, but be cautious of people.
- Don’t make excuses, just apologize.
- Everything takes time, and the best things take the longest. Be patient.
- Family over everything. If you have a strong support system backing you, you’re lucky. Hold onto that. There was one point in my life when I completely took advantage of that and didn’t realize what I actually had until I took a step back. And “family” doesn’t have to always be blood, usually they are but there are some people in your life that will hold on like strong roots and become your family.
- Failure is inevitable, it’s better to embrace it and view it as a step in the right direction. “There are no mistakes, just happy accidents.” -Thank you for that one, Bob Ross.
- Time is your most precious resource… you can’t waste it, life goes by too quickly. The days may be long but weeks and months are so short. I was just outside making up dances on the playground with my childhood best friend, I blinked and now I’m working on my mid-twenties.
- You can’t change other people, and it’s rude to try.
- Yelling always makes things worse. Always. Nothing good ever comes out of it. Just stay calm, and wait it out. Talk it out and listen, really listen. Listen to understand, not to reply.
- Nobody has it figured out. Not one person, ever (except whoever came up with the remote start for your car… they truly had it all figured out and I thank them). Quit comparing yourself to that girl who seemingly has everything together, a nice job, nice car, beautiful skin… she has her own issues also.
- Stop complaining. It’s okay to get down on yourself sometimes, it happens, and it’s fine to sulk for a few minutes but get yourself together. So many people have it way worse than you do, and complaining only makes you feel worse about your current situation. Also, positive thinking translates to a positive outcome.
- Take risks. That’s the only way you’re going to get to the exciting places in your life. Quit playing it safe. Comfort means you’re not growing.
- Revenge is for the petty and irresponsible. Just be better. Take the high road.
- If you aren’t happy and content with yourself, you will never be happy in a relationship. If you can’t love yourself, how can you love anyone else? Don’t put your happiness in the fate of someone else, it isn’t fair for them to be responsible for your joy, and it’s not fair to you either.
And finally, one to grow on:
25. Find what sets your soul on fire, and love people with it.