Sometimes the best thing to do, is nothing at all.
You may feel hurt. You may feel aggravated and annoyed. You may feel slightly betrayed even. You may feel like you don’t deserve the backlash you’re getting from someone.
There’s a lot you want to say. But the best thing to do is apologize for anything you feel convicted of, because at least your conscience is clean. Then say nothing at all.
People are going to mistreat you every day. People have bad days. People have bad weeks. So how do you know someone else’s behavior isn’t the result of a rough day or a messy week?
Guess what? You’ve hurt someone, too. You’ve irritated the crap out of someone, too.
When you’re irritated with them, I guarantee you, they are irritated with you, too. You’ve hurt them, too. You’ve aggravated them, too.
The best thing I’ve found to do is just take a deep breath after things get heated, and before jumping to assumptions by saying “they’re a big fat jerk” “they don’t care” “they’re toxic” remind yourself “they are human” “they are the same as me” “they are fighting battles I know nothing about”
So you have to love your neighbor as you would love yourself.
Be gracious with one another. Be gentle. And be patient.
If they truly care about you as a person, and are of sound mind and a level head, they will always come back around. We just suck at being humans, so it takes a little time and space.
Look for the best in each other, and always do YOUR best to bring out THEIR best.
This is a short one, but I wrote this primarily because I needed to remind myself of this, and take my own advice… I just figured maybe someone else could relate to it, too.